How to Deal with a Cheating Boyfriend

   What if one day, after a long relationship which has become the purpose of your life, your identity and happiness, shit-load of crap explodes on you and you are faced with the truth that your  partner was  cheating on you? This situation puts you in a rock and hard place and the pain that you have to deal with is the truth. This boyfriend who has expressed his undying love for you was actually expressing the same thing to another girl.

   Destructive thoughts may enter your mind... Haste decisions made...retaliation is in order...and stopping for awhile to evaluate the situation is really difficult.

   Would you end the relationship  abruptly? Would it end his cheating?

   It may take a while for reality to sink  in. You would have to deal with the hurt first. Crying would help. Talking to  friends helps too. But in the midst of it all, you should consider dealing with your cheating boyfriend rather than walk away from the situation without making him realize his mistake. So how do you deal with a c heating boyfriend as well as the emotional upheaval?

Self-doubt or Self-pity

Remember that your boyfriend is the one who has cheated on you and not the other way round. There should be absolutely no room for self-doubt or self-pity. "Was there anything wrong with the way I dressed or looked? Is this the reason why allowed himself to get attracted to another girl?" Self-doubt or self-pity can hamper your self-esteem and hinder you from thinking straight. The guilt and pain after being cheated by your boyfriend is no doubt intense, but wallowing will not improve the situation.

Accept reality but avoid hasty decisions

Getting cheated is undoubtedly a heart-wrenching aspect for a girl but it cannot be viewed as a factor to end a relationship. Repeated episodes of cheating by your boyfriend, inspite of warnings, is unpardonable. But if you have known your boyfriend for long and think he is a wonderful person, then you may reconsider the idea of abruptly ending the relationship. But make sure that he makes a solemn promise to remain faithful towards you.

Confrontation

Once you have discovered that your boyfriend is cheating on you, don’t keep your negative emotions bottled up within you. Confront your boyfriend with your findings. You do need to have a heart-to-heart talk with him to find out what is on his mind, how he views his relationship with you or what both of you can do together to ensure that this does not happen again.

Give an ultimatum to your boyfriend

You can issue an ultimatum, asking him to 'either end the relationship with the other girl' or run the risk of losing you forever. If your boyfriend agrees for the former, then mutually agree upon a plan of action. If your boyfriend is unfaithful again, then you are free to do whatever you want.

Seek professional advice

If you are unable to reach a consensus with your boyfriend, meet a counselor and try to get some guidance in dealing with the situation. Professional help in such a situation may tie up lose ends and help you in dealing with a cheating boyfriend with much needed maturity and discretion.

Random Shout Outs

Random Yahoo messenger work shout-outs
Alex: True or False? We are happy.
Bella: definitely FALSE...I'm very honest noh
Mix: FALSE! (capitalized pa!)
Pau: did i just hear you say webcum?
Alex: hot damn..
Dee: sleeeeeepy
Ina: totally hating my computer right now!!x-(
May: I'm only stayin' with you
Mix: Hai..had a very bad dream
Sydney: happy ako every weekends
AFTER A FEW MINUTES


Ina: totally hating my computer right now!!x-(
Jean: Somebody  had better wake all my students...
Kit: cried in my sleep...maybe i got fired in my dream...
May: I'm only stayin' with you
Mix: Hai..had a very bad dream
Pau: wake me up when september ends...
Sydney: mas masaya ako every weekends
Bella: tell me honestly if you still loving me...
Amy: Hahaha..Wow..

The Jester

jester - skull

 The Jester

“I don’t want to kill you! What would I do without you? Go back to ripping off mob dealers? No, no, NO! No. You… you… complete me.” Joker to Batman in the movie Batman The Dark Knight..

Jester, joker, jokester, fool, wit-cracker, prankster, buffoon..You name it..It is somebody who provides general entertainment through gestures, actions, acrobatics and words utilized in combination. Stereotypically, jesters wear this bright colorful clothing and a very distinctive hat with three tails ending with a jingle bell. The three points represent a donkey's ears and tail and it symbolizes an "asinine fool." Later it evolved to a hat with three points.

Jesters were so much a part of the world history. They were actually appointed by Royal Decree way back in the ancient times to the Renaissance period until the 18^th century. They were employed not just to amuse but also criticize their master or their guests.

jester angel

They bring a smile on the faces of angry, unwell and bored monarchs.  As for medieval jesters, they amuse their masters to laughter by sharp contrasts and their liveliness at meals [perhaps] assist their master’s digestion.

In the royal court, they were the only people who can say something and speak their and not cause offense to somebody. They could joke around, mock and jibe..it’s says so much on how much freedom they have in speech…but not always.. the duke of Buckingham (1600s) declared that he would hang a jester (Archy) for teasing Henrietta Maria of France on the defeat of the Armada and rebuking the conduct of the expedition to Buckingham's face for which the jester replied "dukes had often been hanged for insolence but never fools for talking."

Some of the famous jests are of a German jester named Paul Wüst, said no to being a jester of Duke Eberhard the Bearded of Würtemburg (1445-1496) and said "My father sired his own fool. If you want one too, then go and sire one for yourself"

Will Somers, used the same joke to King Henry VIII of England saying : “His majesty after growing to like me said ‘would you be my fool?’I answered ‘I’d rather be your father.’ The king asked why and I said ‘because your father ‘got him a fool for himself’ (having only one wife) and no one could claim him from him. Now you have so many wives and still wanting to have more. Why then can’t you find ‘a fool for yourself’ among them like your father did so you can be sure to be a ‘fool of your own.’

It makes you think what the decree says: “Make fun of the kings, queens and royal visitors.” You can only imagine the boredom—or the sick need of ridicule to have fun—of monarchs during that time when they still had ‘licensed jesters’ among them.

Nowadays, jesters became buffoons which mean someone who provides amusements through weird appearance and /or behaviors. It has an underlying derogatory denotation which means someone who is considered as a ‘public fool,’ vulgar or ridiculous but nonetheless amusing.

A UK horror film portrays a demonic jester, The Funny Man…

Moreover, a more popular jester in today’s entertainment was the Joker’s side Kick Harley Quinn from Batman.

Harley Quinn, Joker's Lover

Harley Quinn first appeared in the Batman: The Animated Series episode "Joker's Favor" as a walk in role.. it gained huge popularity and her character appeared many time over the series.

The 1994 graphic novel Mad Love Harley as an Arkham Asylum psychologist who falls for the Joker and becomes his accomplice and on-off sidekick/lover. She loathes the Batman because he always ruins the Joker's plans. She becomes fascinated with the Joker while interning at Arkham, and volunteers to analyze him. She falls hopelessly in love nearly instantly with the Joker during their sessions, and she helps him escape from the asylum more than once. She developed a hatred for Batman. When the Joker is returned to Arkham after a battle with Batman, the sight of her badly injured patient drives Harley to don the costume and become Harley Quinn, the Joker's sidekick and on/off girlfriend.

But Joker has other plans (Batman #663) where she tries to help Joker with a “plan to kill his former henchman.” Upon realizing that the like that the Joker was referring to her as the ‘former henchman’ she shoots him in the shoulder.

Harley Quinn..the psychologist

Realizing that she needs help, she get’s herself help from Arkham Asylum. She spends a year applying for parole which Bruce Wayne rejected being the layman member of Arkham. She is kidnapped by Peyton Riley, the new female Ventriloquist, who offers her a job.  Harley turns the job down out of respect for the memory of Arnold Wesker, the original Ventriloquist, who attempted to cheer her up during her first week in Arkham while the Joker was still on the loose. She then helps Batman and Commissioner Gordon foil the impostor's plans. Although Sugar escapes, Bruce Wayne is impressed with Harley's effort at redemption, and agrees with granting her parole.

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Transformers 3: Mrs. Sam Witwicky??

The Victoria's Secret model, Rosie Huntington-Whiteley will be the new female lead role for Transformers 3..it's confirmed!!^^

Michael Bay formally welcomed Rosie in his website saying "I would like for all you S4TE fans to welcome [23-year-old British model] Rosie Huntington-Whiteley to the world of Transformers. As some of you might know, she’s the new female lead in Transformers 3."

set pictures of Shai and Rosie
while filming Transformers 3

We now know that she will be named Carly and will possibly 'marry' Sam Witwicky (Shia LaBeouf) Though it's still not clear how Mikaela's character as Sam's first love would be written out or what the story would be..

In the animated series (TV series 1980s), Carly is described as the one who will eventually become Sam Witwicky's wife. Producer Lorenzo di Bonaventura himself has confirmed that "Rosie will definitely be [Shia LaBeouf's] love interest though."

I hope the Shaia-Rosie tandem works out. They actually filmed in Chicago and here are the first set of pictures from the shoot.




                                                                                        On the scene pictures: 

They shot part of the film in Chicago from July until August..The scenes will be part of the closing sequence of the movie. Photos taken from Chicago Tribune website.

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Transformer 3 : Michael Bay VS Megan Fox

My most awaited movie, Transformers, showing summer next year will no longer have Megan Fox a.k.a Mikaela as the lead female actress..Shaia will have a new love interest..

(left) Megan Fox (center) Shia LeBeouf (right) Rosie Whiteley

Megan Fox was cut out form the casts of Transformers 3..It seems that she got into an argument with Director Micheal Bay... to quote: newsinfilm.com


In an interview with Entertainment Weekly Megan said, “The humans are secondary to the robots because it’s a movie about robots… People are well aware that this is not a movie about acting. And once you realize that, it becomes almost fun because you can be in the moment and go, ‘All right, I know that when he calls Action! I’m either going to be running or screaming, or both.’” 


She added that she still doesn’t understand Transformers 2, because it must be a movie made for geniuses.


Bay on the other hand said:  “Well, that’s Megan Fox for you. She says some very ridiculous things because she’s 23 years old and she still has a lot of growing to do. You roll your eyes when you see statements like that and think, ‘Okay Megan, you can do whatever you want. I got it.’ But I 100% disagree with her. Nick Cage wasn’t a big actor when I cast him, nor was Ben Affleck before I put him in Armageddon. Shia LaBeouf wasn’t a big movie star before he did Transformers—and then he exploded. Not to mention Will Smith and Martin Lawrence, from Bad Boys. Nobody in the world knew about Megan Fox until I found her and put her in Transformers. I like to think that I’ve had some luck in building actors’ careers with my films.”


Deadline.com confirmed the news when they announced that they will not be picking Megan Fox as the lead female role.

Later Megan compared director Michael Bay to Hitler in an interview with Wonderland magazine while promoting her horror flick, Jennifer’s Body. In the article she stated that Bay wanted to “create this insane, infamous mad-man reputation. He wants to be like Hitler on his sets, and he is. So he’s a nightmare to work for.”

And when Bay announced back in October that Transformers 3 was set for a July 1, 2011 release date he added this in response to the letter that was circulating form the staff of the set...

“P.S. Megan Fox, welcome back. I promise no alien robots will harm you in any way during the production of this motion picture. Please consult your Physician when working under my direction because some side effects can occur, such as mild dizziness, intense nausea, suicidal tendencies, depression, minor chest hair growth, random internal hemorrhaging and inability to sleep. As some directors may be hazardous to your health, please consult your Doctor to determine if this is right for you.”

Too bad..I really think Megan Fox is hot...